I
know. I know. The title is most probably awkward right? Well, I woke up today
with a hankering to write about emotional wellbeing. My mind ran to 2017 - 2018.
These were one of those years and a half. It was like after the 365 days, about
183 others were added. I was struggling with depression and somehow NF, an
American Christian hip hop artist’s album, Therapy
Session became my bear. I’d snuggle against her till my emotional bank ran
bankrupt so I’d sleep off and wake up with a refill that would somehow run out
by the end of each day. It also did not help that series were an addiction
then. So imagine mulling over Netflix’s ‘You’ and ’13 Reasons Why’. Why
wouldn’t darkness creep under your door and infiltrate all the spaces round
about you?
It
is unfair for me to burden you with tales of depression when I came to spread
love and light. That’s what we need in “unusual” times like these when there
are so many casualties of war being wheeled away as we soldier on in this war
of Corona.
NTV
Uganda, posted an opinion poll today about what people are doing
to safeguard their mental health in the lockdown. What caught my eye was “Am
already depressed I cannot do anything!” There were positive responses like
listening to music, taking casual walks and spending more time with nature. The
former is a reflection of what quite a number of people are feeling. There does
not seem to be much to do about the endless pits in our stomachs after
receiving bad news or counting the death tolls. I cannot dictate how anyone
deals with their mental health because life hits us differently and each of us
has different coping abilities. What we, however cannot lay aside is that facts have to be faced. Trajan (2021) states it as quieting the loud voice of denial [the word ‘quieting’ sounds so
wrong but Google said it’s correct so who am I to argue?]. Where was I?
Escapism feels so good in the moment, I cannot even deny that. Somehow you
sweep things under the carpet then smile with the sun about what a beautiful
day it is. However, it is a matter of time before the carpet is ruffled and you
have to deal with the baggage. So face it. Face it head on that the season is
tough, the lockdown is dreadful, that the relationship is slipping out of your
hands and it is heart wrenching. This will make it easier to seek for help
rather than when denial is screaming at the top of her voice.
Something
else to help us with our emotional wellbeing is venting. What do I mean? Emotions demand to be felt. Find healthy
ways to pay respect to their ‘human rights’. I mentioned that I struggled with
depression and instead of venting, I found more junk to feed on. I now know
that an exercise routine would have helped, writing like I am now, fellowshipping,
talking to someone about it, not to mention screaming. Yes, you got it right.
Screaming. There is a liberty in unboxing pent up emotions. It’s a bit extra
but do whatever it takes to clean out your emotions closet.
Now
that the junk has been trashed, the empty closet needs replenishing. Emotional
wellbeing is attainable. The dreary news bulletins and ‘RIPs’ on Twitter should
not weigh you down. As a Christian, I know that the friends will come and go,
the dream trip to the Eiffel tower, the money, clothes name it, are all fickle.
Only the peace that Christ gives can stand the test of time. I’ll leave you
with this encouragement, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not
as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither
let it be afraid.” John 14:27. So what things are
you doing for your emotional wellbeing?